Wanna
Disappear?
Here’s a guide.
As someone who considers themselves an escapist of sorts, I often find solace in the notion of running away whenever my self-awareness becomes too overwhelming. Joking about booking impulsive flights and disappearing off the grid has become a recurring theme in my conversations. However, I’ve come to a crucial realization: I don’t actually want to escape. What I truly desire is to avoid dealing with the problems at hand.
This guide is for those who, like me, wish to escape the mundanity of daily life. The idea of escaping can seem romantic and appears to be an instant solution to our issues. Yet, despite the temporary relief it may offer, the reality is that our problems remain. We eventually have to return from our trips, only to find ourselves facing the same unresolved issues.
The cycle of escaping on trips and using escapism as a coping mechanism is a recipe for disaster. It’s important to understand that while a temporary getaway can offer a much-needed break, it is not a long-term solution to life’s challenges. Instead, we must confront our problems directly, finding healthier and more sustainable ways to manage stress and achieve personal growth.
1. Disappear (How ironic)
This article is not satire, I promise. When I speak of disappearing, I mean distancing yourself from social media. While we often use social media as a coping mechanism, it can also become part of the problem. By ditching social media for as long as you can, you block out the noise and give yourself a much-needed digital cleanse.
For more on digital decluttering, I recommend reading “Digital Minimalism” by Cal Newport. I’ve done cleanses ranging from one week to two months, and they can work wonders. During these cleanses, I used a basic phone from PEP that only allowed calls and texts. Initially annoying, it soon became enjoyable, especially after I decorated it with rhinestones.
Taking a break from social media can help you regain focus, reduce stress, and improve your overall well-being. Give it a try—you might be surprised at how refreshing it can be.
2. Get a hobby (and no coffee runs at the promenade does not qualify)
Whether you like it or not, short-term gratification might be why you struggle to overcome obstacles. A hobby, as a long-term commitment, forces you to be a beginner and face challenges, but the rewards are immense.
If you’re hesitant to start a hobby alone, check for local workshops. YouTube is also a great resource for learning something new and can even turn a hobby into a passion. Hobbies provide a constructive escape that enriches your skills, patience, and resilience. Plus, they’re usually cheaper than a plane ticket—unless you’re into large-scale rug tufting (no judgment).
3. Keep a notebook
My sketchbook has become an extension of my being. I get ideas at the weirdest times, so a notebook helps declutter my mind. These books, known as commonplace books, store everything from fleeting thoughts to important notes.
When you feel the need to disappear, jot down future travel destinations, dream itineraries, aspirations, or even your grocery list. Sketching offers a lighthearted escape and can improve your drawing skills. Introspection doesn’t always have to be serious journaling; sometimes it’s doodling a wonky flower just because you can.
4. Go on solo mini adventures
I believe in the power of being a tourist in your own town or city. This doesn’t mean spending money at tourist spots, but having smaller adventures. Try a new grocery store, hike a new trail (safely), or visit a nearby suburb or small town. Pretend you’re in a new country, create a mini itinerary, and bring a camera.
Being alone can be daunting but also empowering, boosting your confidence and social skills. Use your lunch breaks to explore new places or take a walk in nature. These small journeys can reduce the urge for drastic change and help you discover more about yourself.
5. Bring someone along for the ride
You don’t have to disappear alone. Having a trusted companion by your side can keep you grounded and accountable during challenging times. This person can help you stay in touch with reality and support you in dealing with difficult situations and feelings.
Together, you can embark on a social media detox, checking on each other’s progress and encouraging one another. You might also enjoy mini adventures together, exploring new places and creating shared experiences. If you share a hobby, set up joint projects to work toward, which can be both motivating and rewarding.
Knowing that someone is in your corner makes everything easier. The obstacles you were running from suddenly don’t seem as scary when faced together. With mutual support, you can tackle challenges more effectively and find greater strength and confidence in the process.
